I feel like we’re living in a culture where we are always living on the fast lane and carry a lot of weight on our shoulders. We’re always expected to live to society’s standards or set the bar very high for ourselves. I consider myself to be a pretty motivated and driven person so I’m naturally hard on myself. However, I’ve learned that it’s OK to not be perfect. That is why I would like to discuss how I take pressure off myself. I hope that this post will be beneficial for those of you who put a lot of pressure on yourself.
1. Take breaks.
I’m the person who’s always on the go and feel like I don’t have much time to slow down. There’s never a moment when I have absolutely nothing to do, whether if it’s chores, errands, or all the work it takes to run a blog. I now realize that it’s OK to take a break every once in a while. It’s not realistic for me to keep running while I’m low on fuel. Taking breaks doesn’t mean that you’re weak, it means that you care enough about yourself to slow down and recharge so that you can be the best version of yourself that you can be.
2. Know my limits.
I used to be the type of person who would always say yes to almost everything because I didn’t want to hurt others’ feelings or create any controversy. Unfortunately, some people see kindness as weakness and I had to learn this by getting hurt and taken advantage of over and over again. I have learned to become stronger through my experiences and now I know when to draw the line and say no. Although I don’t intend to hurt other people’s feelings, sometimes I have to put myself first. It’s not being selfish, it’s showing self-respect and courage for yourself.
3. Listen to myself.
No one knows me better than I know myself. Of course, there are people who have known me for a long time and don’t realize that I have grown and evolved from the person I was when we first met. I am not the same person I was 10 years ago, and there are things that I am doing now that I never thought I would do. It’s all about trusting myself and listening to my gut. I know what’s best for me and I shouldn’t let someone else control me or steer me into a direction that I don’t want to go.
4. Don’t be too hard on myself.
If I can be brutally honest, I must say that I have never received so much pressure to be “perfect” until I became a mom. If you’re also a mom, then you probably know that getting a lot of unnecessary judgement, criticism, and “advice” comes with the territory of being a mom. I used to think there was something wrong with me because some people were very harsh. I definitely learned to grow thicker skin because of this. There are still people who pick apart everything I do til this very day but I learned to take pressure off myself because I know I am doing my best. Besides, at the end of the day their opinion doesn’t matter and what’s important is that my family and I are well taken care of.
5. Don’t compare myself to others.
It’s so difficult not to play the comparison game these days, especially since people love to flaunt the exciting part of their lives on social media. I know that everyone has their own stories and battles but they choose not to showcase these things. I’m the same way because there are times when I’m feeling overwhelmed but I only choose to post pictures and videos of my happier moments. I realized that everyone faces struggles and challenges and just because I don’t know about it, it doesn’t mean their hardships don’t exist. I’m living my own journey and I have to keep going at my own pace.
These are the 5 ways I take pressure off myself. Let me know if you’re able to identify with some of my points. I’d also love to hear how you take pressure off yourself!
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