I can’t believe this day is here, my baby is turning a year old! Yes, it is his 1st birthday which means I am officially the mom of a toddler! I planned on writing this post for quite a while and thought my words would flow so naturally but honestly, it’s hard for me to put my words together since this is such an indescribable feeling for me. I am going to be as raw and candid as I can so I apologize if I tend to drift off in different directions. I normally re-read my blog posts several times and nit pick at my grammar and sentence fluency, but not today! (ain’t nobody got time for that! lol)
I wrote about my thoughts on motherhood in this post when he was 6 months old. Now that it’s his 1st birthday, I wanted to write about what I have learned from Gabriel during my first year as a mother.
He has taught me that I am much stronger than I thought I am.
Motherhood is the most challenging and tiring job in the world. Unfortunately there is no instruction manual that teaches you how to be a mom and all the advice that people tend to bombard new moms with don’t always work for you and your baby. I’ve really learned to trust my natural instincts and have learned what has worked best for me over time. When I decided to become a SAHM, I really didn’t know what I was signing up for. One thing that I can confidently say is that being at home with a baby all day is nothing like a vacation like some may assume. I honestly think that being a SAHM and having to handle things by myself all day is what taught me to be stronger. I was pushed out of my comfort zone many times and had no choice but to do the best I can for my son. FYI, I am not degrading working moms in any way! All moms are hardworking but I think I developed lots of personal growth when I left the corporate world to become a full time mom.
He has taught me that I am the best mom that I can be.
I never knew the extreme amount of pressure moms get until I became a mother myself. When you become a mom, people are so quick to make comments and give their opinion about what you’re doing “wrong”. It used to bother me but I know I am doing my best and I know that other than my husband, I am the only other person that can calm our son down and make things all better. I don’t need anyone to keep questioning my parenting skills or make me think whether I’m “good enough” to be a mother. I am actually very thankful for my own mom. She has been very supportive but doesn’t cross boundaries. She also trusts that I am able to take care of my own child without constantly questioning me or telling me what to do. I’m doing all that I can and at the end of the day, I know I’m the best mom for my son no matter what others think. 🙂
He has taught me that it’s OK for me to make time for myself.
I know mom guilt is very common among mothers. A lot of moms tend to lose themselves and feel like they are only a wife and mother and forget to take care of themselves since they are busy taking care of everyone else. Since I became a SAHM, I don’t get any breaks or separation in my day and I am literally working 24 hours a day. It was very hard for me to get out the first few months when Gabriel was born because I felt like I always had to be with him. I eventually realized that it’s perfectly fine for me to make time for myself. As a matter of fact, I actually do more things for myself now that I am a mom. Before, I used to live too comfortably but now I like to push myself to try new things and pick up new interests. I learned that I am more than “just” a mom. Working around the clock day after day is draining and very unhealthy. It’s important for me to take care of myself in able to for me to take care of my family.
Anyway, I can go on and on about what I have learned this past year but this would turn into a novel! I want to wish Gabriel a very happy 1st birthday! I am so excited to see him continue to grow and watch his personality shine through each day. I’m also excited to make more memories and share fun moments with him. I am very blessed and I know there are many more great things coming in our future. 🙂