Today I’m excited to share the story of another fabulous mother in my SuperMom series! If you didn’t catch the first post of this mini series, I explain that this series is about women (or SuperMoms) who balance their career and motherhood. This week I have the honor of featuring Ashley Strong from Light Love and Spirit. At the end of the interview, she gives excellent advice and tips to help mothers have a balanced life. I hope you enjoy her story!
Tell me a little about yourself. How old are your children and what do you do for a living?
My name is Ashley Strong and I am a beach loving, nature wandering, overly organized,- blogger, mom, and wife. I am married to the boy who stole my heart at 17 years old. It’s now 11 years later and we are still joking on each other and laughing just as much as we did back then…if not more! We have a spunky 2 year old boy who is our world! Have you ever heard the term “boys will be boys?” Yea, well I didn’t realize that started so early! Our son loves all things dirt, motorized, and adventurous. He definitely has his mommy’s love of nature!
All of my life I had always had weird experiences; I could see, hear, and feel things around me that no one else could. I had extremely vivid dreams that I couldn’t explain, some of which even came true! I went through life thinking something was wrong with me and that I was probably a little crazy! Turns out I wasn’t crazy, I am just a psychic medium!
After I had my son the experiences and sensations picked up and there was no more denying it, I knew I had to figure out what was up with me. I was tired of living in fear all of the time and I was ready to face the music.Long story short; I accepted my gifts, put in a lot of work, practice, and research and now I am a professional psychic medium and teacher.
I run a website called LightLoveandSpirit.com where I blog about my experiences, give developmental tips and tricks, and help others progress in their journey. My main focus is to bring a down to Earth approach on this not so down to Earth subject! I give mediumship readings, teach people to open and manage their own gifts, and I am a spiritual coach as well! It hasn’t been an easy road but I am so happy I took the time to figure out who and what I am; I could never go back to the old me at this point. I am happier than I’ve ever been!
How has motherhood affected your career? What is your biggest challenge when it comes to balancing your career and motherhood?
Being a mom, a business owner, and a medium keeps me pretty busy to say the least! My husband is a firefighter and works 24 hour shifts; this certainly helps with childcare during the day! On the other hand when he is gone for 24 hours or sometimes 48, it can be a lot to handle but I wouldn’t change any of it for a second! On the days that he works I schedule my client calls after my little one is in bed; this is when it is super helpful to have client’s in different time zones!
I would say that my hubby is the one who gets the short end of the stick sometimes. He helps me so much with our son, helps me a ton around the house, and even does the bed time routine on nights that I have a client call during that time. He is seriously my rock and I have no clue what I would do without him! I know that having a medium as a wife is not the typical “norm” but he handles it with grace and fully supports me. I know there are nights where he just wants to cuddle up on the couch with me after being gone for 24 hours and I have work to do. I try to make up for that time by turning off all electronics when we have our time and focusing my attention on him! I also make sure my weekends are dedicated completely to family time!
As for the little one, I am lucky to have 24 hour periods where it’s just him and I! I always try to make them special even on days where I just want to sleep! We will go to the beach and play in the sand, go play in the woods, have “special dinners” (not as healthy as I would like), and we usually have dance parties! Same thing as with my husband, I try to put my phone away and focus all of my attention on him and my fur babies.
How do you make time for yourself?
Making time for myself isn’t always easy and I will be the first to admit it, but I try to give myself a few minutes each day to focus on me. When I was developing my gifts I learned that self love is the best gift you can give to yourself and those around you. So on days where I am feeling particularly overwhelmed I know that I need to take a time out for myself. I start every day off with a workout before the rest of the house wakes up and I end my workout with a short mediation. Some days I REALLY just want to sleep but that is MY time and afterwards I always feel great! I also try to get in a meditation once a day and I love to listen to podcasts to relax as well. My FAVORITE “me time” is on the rare occasion that I get the TV to myself, get the baby asleep, and hubby is at work – I like to drink red wine and watch Netflix. I know, not spiritual at all but sometimes we all just need to shut our brain off for a while right?
What advice would you want to give to moms that are having trouble juggling motherhood and their career?
The advice that I would give to moms struggling to juggle family and a career is to just give yourself a break! Seriously, remember how awesome of a job you’re doing. Being a mom is not for the faint of heart, managing a family is not for the weak, and having a career in the mix…girl, you’re super woman! Some days you may just want to throw in the towel and feel like you have to choose between family and your career. I’ve been there, I’ve felt the mom guilt, and I’ve thought about giving up more times than I can count. But if I gave up my career then I would be giving up a part of me, something I love, something I’ve built on my own.
Don’t choose between two things that make you happy.
Set business hours and stick to them, disengage from the electronics, take the kids outside and actually PLAY with them. Remember what its like to be carefree and see the magic in nature all around you even if it’s just for 15 minutes.
Make time for your significant other…even if that means putting it into your already overloaded schedule. Togetherness and bonding is just as important as the kids and it’s just as important as your career.
Make time for yourself. At the end of the night stay up an extra 30 minutes, soak in the bath, close your eyes, and just breathe.
Remember that you’ve got this! None of this is easy but it’s all so worth it.
Don’t settle. Remember where you were and look at where you are now…you’re doing it, don’t give up!
Remember to love yourself! YOU have to live with YOU for the rest of YOUR life, so be nice to yourself.
Be forgiving of yourself. Managing all of this is hard sometimes and we may at times feel like either the business or our family is not getting enough attention and that can be hard. Forgive yourself, you’re doing your very best.
For more on positivity, spirituality, and mediumship please check out my site LightLoveandSpirit.com!