As I get older, I start to realize more and more that it’s OK to be different and that it’s never too late to make changes in your life to become the person you want to be. Today I am talking about how I conquer my fear of stepping out of my comfort zone. It’s really easy to fall into a trap and become someone that everyone else wants you to be. It’s also common for other people to want you to fit into a certain mold and be just like them. Well, here’s a quote that I like to live by: Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. It is something that I truly resonate with.
Anyone who has known me for a long time knows that I was always very shy and timid growing up. I grew up in a very strict household and wasn’t allowed to spend time with anybody outside of my family and relatives. I was always expected to bury my nose in a book and help out with chores and anything my parents needed. Because of my lack of social interaction, I was extremely shy around other people and it took me a very long time to come out of my shell.
So how did I finally learn how to come out of my shell? Unfortunately, it took a lot of pain and humility for me to grow into the person I am today. Since people viewed me as the “quiet girl” or the girl who was “too nice”, I was an easy target for others to take advantage of me. I was usually one of the youngest people in the workplace and was seen as the young grasshopper among people who had a much longer tenure than me. I felt disrespected many times because of my age and experience level. I had to continuously encourage myself to stand out by pushing myself out of my comfort zone. I would speak up more at meetings to make sure my voice was heard and began initiating ideas and resolutions to prove that I was a valuable asset to the company. I guess you can call this a blessing in disguise because it has helped me develop thicker skin and I feel more comfortable standing up for myself.
Stepping out of my comfort zone goes beyond the workplace. Although I am no longer working in the corporate world, my experiences have really help shape who I am personally. I have learned to become more confident and open to trying new things. Yes, there are still times when I don’t feel comfortable going up to a random person and striking up a conversation with them. However, I have come a very long way to be where I’m at today. Being able to share candid thoughts on my blog is also a huge step for me! I like sharing certain things so others are able to relate to me. I also noticed that I get more engagement through my blog and social media accounts when I discuss certain topics that some people choose not to talk about. It really means a lot to me when my writing has an impact on someone because it makes me feel like all the hard work that I pour into my blog is paying off. 🙂
Please feel free to share your story with me and let me know if you are able to relate to anything I have discussed. I love hearing from you! I would like to thank local Seattle/Tacoma photographer Marissa from Life of M Photography for collaborating with me and capturing my photos for this post. Please also check out her Instagram as well. 🙂
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